Signs Of An Affair - How To Read The Warnings

Have you had a gut feeling that something is not quite right between you and your partner? Statistics suggest that it is wise to pay attention to these feelings. Gut feeling on its own is not enough to take action over though. You need to find more signs of an affair and the evidence to back them up before you make any confrontational moves. There are many signs to watch for so let's have a look at some of the more common ones.

Those gut feelings are probably being triggered by some changes in the behavior of your spouse. These changes can be subtle, such as a change in musical taste, or more obvious, like a sudden change in sexual desire. Now that you have the gut feeling you should start watching for other signs of an affair taking place to either confirm or contradict those feelings. Once you know what to look out for, the rest should be easy.

Behavior changes will normally happen suddenly rather than over a long period of time. Your partner has just met someone who fills a need so these changes will more than likely start around the same time. Your partner will be trying to impress their new love interest so you may see things like a sudden interest in losing weight or gaining muscle, perhaps a change in the way they dress or a change in the style or color of their hair. These changes are designed to make them appear younger and more desirable to the new lover.

Has your partner started listening to a different band, singer or style of music they have not previously shown any interest in? A sudden change from their normal taste in TV shows or, if they are a reader, a new author suddenly taking precedence over the usual choices. These changes are from them trying to gain an interest in their new lovers tastes. Most people are fairly set in their habits so changes in these tastes can stand out like a sore thumb.

A change in sexual appetite over a long period of time is normal in any relationship but when there is a sudden decrease or, odd though it may seem, increase in your partners sex drive this can be a sign of an affair. The guilt conflict your spouse may feel if they are in a sexual relationship with their lover can even lead to them wanting to sleep in a separate room.

If you are seeing some of these behavior changes there are physical signs which can give you more evidence. Lipstick stains and other smudges from makeup, love bites or scratches, unfamiliar scents on their clothing. You may also notice entries on credit card bills or phone bills which you cannot explain. Perhaps you have found receipts for items you don't know anything about or for places you haven't been such as restaurants and hotels.

If you suspect your partner may be cheating you must become your own detective and start adding up the evidence. It is critical you find the evidence because if you make a false accusation you could cause as much damage to your relationship as a real affair would. There are many legitimate reasons for behavior changes so you must be thorough in ruling out these possibilities. Keep notes of your suspicions to back you up if a confrontation becomes inevitable but keep them safely away from your partner.