Do You Make These Avoidable Relationship Mistakes?

Do you dwell on the problems? Is it hard to forgive yourself for the mistakes you make? Is it hard to forgive other people's mistakes? Do you run the scene over and over again in your mind for days afterward? These are all common mistakes. We all want to avoid them and yet find ourselves committing them anyway.

In part, we make these sorts of mistakes because we almost never take the time to really consider the big picture. When we keep the big picture in the front of our minds, then the issues are far simpler to deal with and forgive. We need to stress how vital it is to take time to focus on your relationship and clarify it in your mind. We all do it; we focus on the problems and they expand in our minds.

Imagine that you look out the window and can see a huge mountain in the distance. Now look down at your own hand. There is no question about which is bigger - the mountain or your hand. Now hold your hand up in front of your face. Interesting how the hand totally obscures the mountain. It seems larger than the mountain. This is what we do with the problems in our minds.

The solution is to keep your eyes firmly on the big picture. We need to go to our hearts to find our inner power and truth. There are many ways of doing this and a really simple way is doing a mandala colouring meditation. "Doodling for Meaning" it is called. You will be astonished by how effectively this tool clears the past unhappy emotions and gives you energy to move forward. It is simple and fun.

The 7 simple steps are:

1. Choose your mandala page
2. Choose the colours you feel drawn to today
3. Write both your name and the name of the person on the top of the page
4. Note each of the aspects of the relationship around the circle
5. Now enjoy doodling each section as you think about the aspect it involves (you can doodle words too)
6. Finish by writing a word to describe what you want from each aspect of your relationship
7. Sit back and admire your big picture!