Men Dating Women, Why Such A Chore?

Men Dating Women, When Did It Become a Chore?

The dance, as some call it. We all want to dance. Isn't this what it's all about? Men dating women? If we are in a relationship, we are all trying to figure out how to make it work or how to keep it working.

If we are not dating women than we are trying to figure out how to. And where to. The dance.

We do this until we die. The lucky ones find love. I still enjoy seeing an elderly couple holding hands and walking together like it was their first date. I guess it gives me hope. To the rest of us, much of the whole dating scene can be a chore.

Dating the ladies should be less of a chore. If dating women came easier to guys, the whole concept could be fun.

Many men are not good at it. This is why online dating is so big. Internet dating takes away the sometimes humiliating art of picking up women.

But isn't that the natural way to meet women? You walk up and say something. Let's get back to the natural way that men date women and explore the dating tips for guys necessary to make it fun again.

Date tip #1, Team up with a guy

Grab a guy friend. Don' go it alone. This might mean limiting your golfing with your married buddies. Hit some single venues and reach out for single dudes, not just women. Having a wing man makes meeting women fun again. Now you can make plans to run into women. Take a Carnival Cruise, do a ski trip. It's more fun with a wing man.

Date tip #2, Change your routine

Yes, change your routine. I know you go to the same places. We all do. This is nice to get things done but usually sucks to meet women. You're now single. Do things and go to places where single people are going to be. Coffee at home? No. Starbucks. Dinner with your married friends on Saturday night? No. Wine tasting at a hip restaurant.

Somewhere in the mix, picking up and courting women became a chore. "The dance" became no fun. Reach out and find a new single guy friend. Then change your day to day routine and you will find the dance is exciting all over again.

The 24 Laws of Attracting Women

The 24 Laws of Attraction

The ability to attract women is one of the most sought after and valuable skills for any man to acquire. These 24 laws will help you better understand women, and learn a few secrets that could change your outlook on attraction forever. This is the first part of a potential two-part series. I hope you guys enjoy reading it.

Laws 1-12

LAW 1

DON'T TRY TO BE THE BEST

JUDGMENT:

You don't have to be the coolest guy in the room. When you try to hard, you come across as fake or needy. Girls aren't looking for a guy who seems like they need to message there ego's. Only an insecure guy, feels the need to boast or brag. Let other more boisterous men make a fool of themselves. Loudness is a poor substitute for confidence.

LAW 2

HAVE AN ENTOURAGE

JUDGMENT:

When you enter any type of social scene with other people, you instantly make yourself appear more valuable. This is especially true if you have other women with you. This will create curiosity, and will social proof you before you even say anything. When girls see other girls that like you, they think "all these girls can't be wrong about him." Walk in front of your group.

LAW 3

CONCEAL YOUR INTENTIONS

JUDGMENT:

This one is absolutely crucial. Most girls aren't going to respond to a line like this, "I think your hot do you want to have sex." It may work in a satirical movie, but this is real life. You can't let a girl know what your thinking, even if it's pretty obvious. The best thing to do is be subtle and vague. Show a girl that you might be interested, but leave her guessing until you've finally hooked up or are in a relationship.

LAW 4

ALWAYS SAY LESS THAN NECESSARY

JUDGMENT:

When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Girls don't want to hear you talk about yourself. Bragging about your accomplishments isn't going to get you anywhere. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish. Let her talk. Women love to talk about themselves, and they appreciate somebody who will listen. This doesn't mean you become her emotional tampon. But show her that you can connect with her on an emotional level, and you'll be well on your way to a good night.

LAW 5

SO MUCH DEPENDS ON REPUTATION- GUARD IT WITH YOUR LIFE

JUDGMENT:

Reputation is one of the cornerstone of attraction. When your reputation precedes you, then your job is half done. This is especially true in college or any kind of reoccurring social scene. If girls hear from other girls that you're a great guy, then you won't have to convince them. They will want to know you before you even approach. Here's something even better. When your reputation is strong enough, some girls will have already made the decision to sleep with you before you even speak. Don't do anything that will Jeopardize your reputation.

LAW 6

COURT ATTENTION AT ALL COST

JUDGMENT:

While it's important to not TRY and stand out, it's more important to APPEAR to stand out. Don't let yourself get lumped into the ever growing group of uninteresting and normal guys. Stand out through your confidence, the people around you, and the uniqueness of your personality.

LAW 7

GET YOUR FRIENDS TO DO THE WORK FOR YOU, BUT ALWAYS TAKE THE CREDIT

JUDGMENT:

it can sometimes work in your favor if you let your friends do the talking for you. If somebody "puts you on," they are basically social proofing you. They are saying that I think he's a great guy and you should too. Sometimes your friends can bring you together with a girl without you having to do much work. In this instance, you can reap all the rewards. But don't forget to thank your friends, or return the favor when they need it.

LAW 8

MAKE WOMEN COME TO YOU

JUDGMENT:

A man who is constantly on the fruitless pursuit of woman is unattractive.Your ultimate goal should be having girls chasing you. It's possible. You just have to become the confident, dominant, fun, and interesting guy that girls are attracted too. You want to put yourself in a situation where a girl is qualifying herself to you. You aren't trying to convince her that you're the man for her. She should be convincing you that she's the women for you. You should know what you want, and she has to prove if she meets those qualifications.

LAW 9

MASTER THE ART OF TIMING

JUDGMENT:

"never seem to be in a hurry- hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually." Men who look like they are always in a rush are not attractive to women. When you approach a girl, do not hurry. Walk slowly because it makes you seem sure of yourself. When you move in for a kiss, take it slow. When you escalate in the bedroom, move slow. Being in a hurry is the easiest way to get rejected. Learn to hold back when the time is not right, and immediately seize the opportunity when it is.

LAW 10

INFECTION: AVOID THE UNHAPPY AND UNLUCKY

JUDGMENT:

"You can die from someone Else's misery- emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster." If you want to get better with girls you have to associate yourself with guys who are good with girls. If your friends aren't good with girls, and aren't willing to learn to become better than you need to find some new friends. The best way to learn "game" is by being around guys who are already good. You can observe what they do and learn from them. Having a mentor speeds up the process exponentially, and can even produce better results.

LAW 11

ENTER ACTION WITH BOLDNESS

JUDGMENT:

Be sure of yourself every time you approach or attempt to escalate with any woman. Your doubts and hesitations will make you appear unconfident and weak. "Timidity is dangerous; better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity." Girls admire and are attracted to the bold; no women likes the timid.

LAW 12

USE SELECTIVE HONESTY

JUDGMENT:

Don't feel the need to pour your heart out and answer every woman's question directly. A direct answer is less attractive than a vague one. Girls find guys attractive who create a challenge for them. While you shouldn't lie, you shouldn't be telling a woman everything about you when you first meet. Don't talk about you ex's and don't focus on your faults.

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LAW 13

IGNORE THINGS YOU CANNOT HAVE

JUDGMENT:

If a girl rejects you, do not hang on your failure. Showing that you are upset or hurt gives her all the power over you. You can't always control the outcome, but you can control your actions. By ignoring the one girl and talking to others, you make her wonder why you suddenly lost interest. She might also feel like she made the wrong decision and will become more attracted to you.

LAW 14

ACT LIKE A SPY

JUDGMENT:

Knowing about the girl your interested in is critical. You have to be able to gather Intel. It's best to learn all the important things you can about a girl in the few minutes you're talking with her. Also figure out if she has a boyfriend without asking directly. Too many guys have spent hours with girls only to find they have a boyfriend. Your mission should be to gather enough information to set up a date in the near future, or seal the deal that night.

LAW 15

NEVER HESITATE

JUDGMENT:

"Those who hesitate masturbate." When guys are interacting with girls they are scared to go all the way. They don't want to escalate because they feel that all the work they've put in will be destroyed. Some guys will make out with a girl and then not take it any further. If you keep making out with a girl and nothing else, then she will lose interest. You have to be willing to take that next step because she's normally not going to do it for you.

LAW 16

USE ABSENCE TO INCREASE A WOMEN'S INTEREST

JUDGMENT:

This is crucial. To much exposure makes you less valuable. Having other activities and passions in your life is highly attractive. If you keep your availability scarce, a girl will be more attracted to you. A girl doesn't want you to hang on her shoulder. She wants her space just like you. In your absence, she will be forced to think about you. When you finally do meet up, she will be that much more interested.

LAW 17

CULTIVATE AN AIR OF UNPREDICTABILITY

JUDGMENT:

Girls are attracted to guys that they can't predict. When you say or do something that she didn't expect, you create an element of mystery and you keep things interesting. If she can predict your every move or if you follow scripted pick up lines, she will quickly grow bored and move on to another more interesting guy.

LAW 18

DO NOT BUILD FORTRESSES TO PROTECT YOURSELF ISOLATION IS DANGEROUS

JUDGMENT:

You have to be willing to get out there. If you are an introverted person, than that could be one of the main reasons your not having success with women. Mingle into social circles, learn from people around you, and approach, approach, approach. Keeping yourself isolated will make you socially awkward and destroy your interactions with girls.

LAW 19

KNOW WHO YOU'RE DEALING WITH DO NOT OFFEND THE WRONG PERSON

JUDGMENT:

If the girl your going after is in a relationship, know who the other man is. Having relationships with married women can be dangerous. If you mess with the wrong persons girl, you can find yourself in serious trouble. Imagine you found out your girl was cheating on you with another guy. What if you knew this guy and had easy access to him? What would you do? Know who you're dealing with.

LAW 20

CONTROL A WOMAN'S OPTIONS

JUDGMENT:

Do not give a women the opportunity to say no. Asking yes or no questions, are uninteresting and will produce undesired results. Instead tell a women what to do without being over dominant or controlling. For example, instead of "Do you want to dance with me," say "This is my favorite song. Dance with me." Reducing options puts you in control of the conversation and the interaction.

LAW 21

RE- CREATE YOURSELF

JUDGMENT:

Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores women. Be the master of you own image rather than letting others define it for you. Doing so will make you seem dominant, confident, and in complete control. All of which are highly attractive to any women.

LAW 22

SURRENDER TACTIC: TRANSFORM WEAKNESS INTO POWER

JUDGMENT:

Don't fight over any girl. If another man is in a relentless pursuit of the same girl, then fall back. His persistence and desperation will make you seem more in control. She will become less attracted to him and more attracted to you.

LAW 23

CONCENTRATE ON YOUR STRENGTHS

JUDGMENT:

Do not spread yourself too thin. You can improve your weaknesses, but your strengths will always outweigh them. Be good at a lot and excellent at something. Having one enormous strength will allow a girl to over look smaller and less significant faults.

LAW 24

LOOKS ARE NOTHING

JUDGMENT:

Looks are not very important to women. They are far more attracted to your confidence and personality. Make sure you are well groomed and nicely dressed, but do not focus on things you can't change, such as, height and facial structure. Focusing on these trivial aspects will produce insecurities and self doubt. Focus instead on your confidence.

5 Great Tips For How to Make Love to a Woman

So you've met a great woman. You've successfully flirted, conversed, and seduced her. What happens next? Hopefully you already have some basic idea. But there is more to sex than simply getting yourself laid. If you want her coming back for more, you have to continue seducing her. If you want to truly know how to make love to a woman, these are the basic points you should know.

1. Start With Foreplay

Before you even start thinking about getting anybody's clothes off, take the time to get her in the mood. Even if she's already in the mood you'll want to get her more excited, more enthusiastic before you actually get down to it. Women take longer than men to achieve orgasm, so the more prep work you do beforehand, the more fun you'll both have later on. Start off with slow, soft stroking on her hands and arms. Work your way to kisses around her neck and shoulders. These highly erogenous areas are sure to get her going!

2. Don't Rush It

To start out, make everything last longer than you think it needs to. Think of the pacing of a suspenseful movie. Everything starts at a fairly mundane, ordinary pace. Little by little, the plot gathers momentum, building tension gradually to heighten the effect when things really get going. So start slow. Give her the chance to wish you'd speed it up, before you actually do.

3. Think Outside the... (Well, You Know)

You're going to get there eventually, so why not take the scenic route? The female body is, let's face it, one of nature's most perfect forms. So while you've got one at your disposal, explore and enjoy! Using fingers, lips, tongue, discover her every curve, ridge, and cranny. Take your time. Discover what you like best, but also what she likes. Trust me, she'll let you know. If she particularly likes being touched or kissed somewhere, linger there. You may be surprised at all the various points on her body where you can drive her wild.

4. Give and Take

It takes two, as they say, to tango. So make sure you're giving as good as you're getting. If she does something you particularly enjoy, try giving the same back to her. If she doesn't seem to respond to one thing, try another. If you're completely at a loss, let her guide you. But try to avoid asking if she enjoys what you're doing. It could dampen the mood, and her reactions should let you know when you're on the right track.

5. Take Time to Snuggle

Women are going to insist on it, and there's really no way out of it. When everything is finished, she'll want to lie in bed, in your arms, and snuggle. So you might as well plan on it, and try to enjoy it. Think of it this way: any athlete, once he's finished performing, has to take the time to relax and take a breather after his performance. You've just finished a major show of athletic prowess yourself, so take a little time for yourself. And for her. She'll be glad you did, and she has ways of making you glad, too!

A Great Wingman Flies a Pick Up Artist to Rembrandt Stature

You've probably heard it said before that an awesome seduction wingman for a pick up artist is a woman. That is certainly true. But you have private access to another pick up artist wingman that is even better.

Years ago, I shared an apartment with a friend and he moved his girlfriend in with him. This type of domestic situation can often turn awkward because I was single at the time. I'm sure my friend's girlfriend sensed that problems could possibly ensue and she adopted a tactic to head off any tension - she started acting as pick up artist wingman for me. Man! She was FANTASTIC!

We all know that women are as competitive as guys are - maybe even more so. When I was out with my buddy's beautiful girlfriend, who made it appear as if she was my girlfriend, I was a HOT commodity. My roommate knew what was going on and he was even jealous. It's funny now to recall. He knew I wasn't fooling around with his girl: he was envious of the amazing action that his girlfriend was procuring for me as my wingman.

"Russ," my friend asked one time, "why don't you and my girlfriend hook up? Then she might start helping me get all the hot seduction action that you're into!"

Yes. It was a very sweet deal at the time. My seduction wing-girl did some amazing things for me. But I was able to seduce pretty well on my own too because I also had another super wingman and two wings are far better than one. With his two great wings an aspiring pick up artist can soar to lofty heights. On world-class wings a pick up artist can be of Rembrandt's caliber.

Who was my second pick up artist wingman? If you guess my buddy was, you would be wrong. He was a great guy but honestly, he couldn't attract a galvanized screw with a magnet. I suspect the only reason why he had such a hot girlfriend is that she could be almost certain of his being faithful to her. (Or maybe he was hung like a walrus - I don't know.) My point is that he wasn't my other seduction wingman.

My superb seduction wingman was doubtlessly even more adept at enhancing my pick up artist talents than my brilliant wing-girl was. That pick up artist's wingman was and still is my own subconscious mind. And even though I no longer have my special wing-girl to assist in my seductions, I still do just fine as a pick up artist on my own. Hey. I'm of the baby-boomer generation and my current girlfriend is in her twenties.

I'm not here to boast though. I'm trying to motivate and encourage you to possibly find yourself a girl to act as your seduction wing-girl. But even if you don't locate a gem of a wing-girl as I had, you have the same brilliant pick up artist wingman as I did. You do have a subconscious mind and you can easily train him to seduce with you. I'll divulge a little secret here: your subconscious mind acting against your seduction attempts could very well be the PRIMARY reason you might be failing.

So how do you train your subconscious mind to be your excellent wing man? Oddly enough, you have to court and woo your subconscious mind - as you would a girl you want to seduce. You need to seduce your subconscious mind into supporting your pick up artist efforts, instead of thwarting your seduction dates. At the bottom line, you need to communicate with your subconscious mind and convince him to take up your wing position. Hypnosis is probably the best method of conscious-to-subconscious communication but a subliminal approach could work too. This does take some effort on your part but I suggest that the incredible results make it well worth it.

How To Get A Girlfriend And Keep Her Happy

First I would like to share with you a little advice on what really attracts a woman to a man. Bet you can't guess! No, it's not always good looks. Yes, women almost always look at a good looking man, pretty natural if you ask me. But looks aren't what keeps a woman, especially if he is a jerk. And no, it's not money, although that is a plus, but rich guys can have attitude and be jerks too. So what is it that most woman are really attracted to in a man?

Self Confidence.

When a man is confident about who he, well then, he is just sexy! And that is more attractive to women then money or good looks.

So that would be your first step to get a girlfriend and keep her happy. You need to be confident about who you are, and hopefully you are a great guy with a big heart, a good sense of humor, intelligent, and fun. Please, don't be a confident jerk, that's a real turn off. You must have some good qualities, and if you don't, well then that would be the first thing to work on.

The Second thing you would need to do to get a girlfriend and keep her happy is to appreciate her. Simple. (See we're not so complicated!) Don't ever take her for granted. So how do you show a woman that you appreciate her? Do all the little things that most men overlook. Below I give you a list of little things that you can do for a woman. Even if you are currently not dating her, but would like to, then start doing these things and I'm sure that before long she would love to go out with you.

So Here is a list of little things you can do to make her happy and feel appreciated:

1. Send her a card (through the mail) for no particular reason, just something to let her know that you were thinking of her. If your not dating yet then avoid the mushier ones, send her a humerus one instead.

2. Offer to help her out with something she seems to either have no time to do, or doesn't know how to do. Like mow her lawn, get her oil changed, fix her leaky faucet. If your not sure what it is she might need help with, well then your not really listening to her when you do talk. Women have a great way of sharing things that they want done or need to do. Keep your ears open or ask.

3. Show an interest in her and her life. Ask questions if you don't know what's going on in her world. Women love a sensitive man who is interested in her life.

4. Make her laugh. Laughing is so uplifting and can make the day to day drudgery so much easier. I have gone out with men just because they are fun to be with and make me laugh. Give it a try, don't always be serious.

5. If you are lucky enough to go out with her, don't rush things. Show her a good time with no pressure to re-pay you. If she can just enjoy herself and have fun with you, then she will continue to go out with you.

6. Get her those little things that she enjoys. Tootsie rolls, ice cream, pay attention and you will know what they are, then when you see her make sure you have one of her favorite things to give her. Lot's of points here!

7. Do not look at other women when you are with her, this is a big one! That will only make her wonder about herself, is she not good enough? Not pretty enough? Plus it shows her no respect. When you are out with her, she should be your world, plain and simple.

8. Do not put the guys before her! Another big one. She feels that if your interested in her, then you would much rather spend time with her, not the guys. You have plenty of time to hang with the guys when you are not with her. So when you are with her, once again, make her your world.

The 4 Key Essences of Love

Love is maybe a short four-letter word but its definition in the dictionary is never constant. If you look at different dictionaries you can see that they have many definitions of love. Even each one of us has a definition for love. Some of us even associate love to an object like chocolates, flowers, toys and even perfumes. To add, some of us even associate it to the one we adore.

Even as kids and as we grow to adults love has different definitions. Love surely is a complicated thing, and not even science can explain why it exists. It may explain the hormones involved, but it can never explain why it happens.

Love surely has many definitions, especially when we talk about relationships. However, what is really "love" when it comes to expressing it to someone we love?

1. Love is faithfulness.
When you love someone we must be honest to the person we love. Being faithful to someone means not closing doors and hiding secrets. If you really love someone and have full trust to that person then keeping secrets is not the way to express it. Knowing each other's secrets just goes to show that both of you have full faith and trust in each other.

It may be difficult to share secrets and may take time, but it will surely pay off.

2. Love is Sharing.
Sharing in love is not just all about material things. This is the part where we open our hearts and minds to each other. Sharing in joy, pain, success and even failure and when it comes to love you are not alone. Love always exists between two parties, and you can only experience the full joy of love if you are open with one another. Share your problems, big or small, to one another for love will always find a way to comfort you.

3. Love is spending time together.
Even just for a short time spending time with each other can really be fulfilling. Just a few moments can get your sadness away in just a blink of an eye. That is why spending time with one another is crucial when it comes to relationships. If you love someone, but do not have time to go visit just means that you do not fully love that person.

Another important thing about spending time with each other is talking. Psychologically, a person who does not have social communication, especially to someone they love tends to get depressed easily and work inefficiently. As you can see, if you do not want your partner to be like that spending time with one another is crucial.

4. God is love.
When it comes to relationships it can never be complete without the one from above. He is always there to comfort you in times of hardships that may test you. However, in the end, those trials exist to build you to become a stronger couple.

How Do I Get Over My Ex Girlfriend? 3 Strategies to Get Over Her Quickly!

I run a popular site on how to get over a break up and there's one question that consistently falls into my mailbox from my readers: how do I get over my ex girlfriend?

Unfortunately, this is a question that most men have thought about at least once in their life. Fortunately, if this represents you, there are some answers I'd like to share with you. Before we get to that, here is a question from one of my readers:

You gotta help me out. My girl just dumped me for another guy. I'm in shock. I thought we would be together forever. I even made plans for our wedding and thought about how I was going to propose to her. Now, the bombshell drops. I don't know what to do since I never saw this coming. What's your advice? (James from Miami, Florida)

My Answer:

Your question is one that has been faced by many others, including me. We fall for a girl who just isn't as into us. What's unfortunate is that we are so brainwashed into thinking that men know all of the answers to these questions to the point where it is almost embarrassing to ask. As men, this messes with our minds when we have moments where we have a hard time dealing with emotions, especially when girls are involved. Asking your buddies "how do I get over my ex girlfriend" is sometimes hard for a man for a few reasons:

• Guys aren't overly sensitive to other guys and don't provide other men with the close-nit support that girls receive from their friends post-breakup.
• Guys are supposed to make things work. Including relationships. Any failure is an "x" mark on his personality.
• Guys generally deal with their emotions internally verses externally. This can lead to built up frustration and anger that isn't noticeable to the outside world.

And since you were courageous enough to reach out for advice, I'm going to help you and the rest of my readers with this question by sharing three key tips to get you rolling in the right direction again.

Tip #1: Think Realistically

The downside of being in love is that you begin to think irrationally. You start to believe in destiny, soulmates, and more. While this is great to think about while in a relationship, it isn't a realistic mindset once you end the relationship. The truth is, if the girl breaks up with you, there will always be someone in this world who was and is a better fit for you. Instead of idealizing your ex girlfriend, start to think about the negatives in your ex as well as what improvements you would like to see in your next girlfriend. Was your ex not supportive of you? Was your ex controlling? Look to find someone who doesn't exhibit these characteristics.

Tip #2: Start Dating!

This may seem like a hard recommendation to some, but it might be the most vital of these three recommendations. If you are single, you will need to fill this void in some way. Dating others is a great way to start. Go out to social events (parties, bars, sports events, etc.) and talk to girls. If this isn't your style, try online dating. However you do it, set up dates. It doesn't have to be anything serious, but you need to be in the presence of other girls to help you forget about your ex girlfriend.

Tip #3: Enjoy Being Single

Think of your single time as an advantage rather than a disadvantage. Now is the time for you to focus on yourself and do things that you've always wanted to do. Focus on travel, school, exercise, activities and simply spending quality time with those you enjoy being with. If you are able to enjoy your life by yourself, it won't be long before girls begin to notice and become attracted to you.

Getting over your ex girlfriend will be rough. This will especially be rough if you were thinking about marriage. However, follow the three steps above to begin your process of moving on from the girl who broke your heart.